One of the remarkable people I met at the recent TEDx San Francisco was Nicole Daedone, who told me she was the founder of OneTaste. I wondered: Is OneTaste a Buddhist organization? Perhaps a new restaurant, with just one item on the menu?
Well, sort of. Nicole teaches orgasm meditation (OM), more infamously known as the 15-minute orgasm. I realized I had already heard of her through Tim Ferriss’s latest book, The Four Hour Body, in which he declares that Nicole’s teachings “should be required learning for all men.”
It should also be required learning for all women, especially those who are not having enough orgasms. That’s pretty much all women. I mean, who can argue with more orgasms? Exactly.
Depending on how you approach Nicole’s work, you may find it revolutionary, subversive, kinky, spiritual, life-changing or just plain necessary. Which is why I’d like you to listen to Nicole and decide for yourself. Her book is Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm. She’s doing a mini-seminar for you guys free of charge, so write this down in your calendar:
- Date: Tuesday, 21 June 2011
- Time: 5pm Pacific, 8pm Eastern, 1am London
- Call-in number: +1 218 862 1300, code 667202
- Duration: 45min + 15min Q&A
If you’re a woman, you obviously want to listen to this. And if you’re a guy and interested in making women happy, you’ll want to listen to this, too.
Nicole has taught hundreds of men and women, so she’s gleaned deep insights about male-female dynamics. In fact, my favorite parts of the book are Chapter 6, ‘What Men Should Know About Women’ and Chapter 7, ‘What Women Should Know About Men’ — ten dead-on insights for each one. I’ll endeavor to share some of those with you over the next week, and I want you to ask her about them during the call.
Then & there,
PS: The interview was fantastic! Here’s the download link for your listening pleasure: Recording of interview with Nicole Daedone on the Art & Craft of Female Orgasm (15Mb)
A little while ago I had the privilege of attending TEDx San Francisco, organized by the incomparable Christine Mason McCaull. One of the talks was by Mel Robbins, a riotously funny self-help author and life coach with a syndicated radio show. In it, she mentioned that scientists calculate the probability of your existing as you, today, at about one in 400 trillion (4×1014).
“That’s a pretty big number,” I thought to myself. If I had 400 trillion pennies to my name, I could probably build a decent-sized penny fortress with it.
Previously, I had heard the Buddhist version of the probability of ‘this precious incarnation’. Imagine there was one life preserver thrown somewhere in some ocean and there is exactly one turtle in all of these oceans, swimming underwater somewhere. The probability that you came about and exist today is the same as (more…)
Recently I had the pleasure of giving a talk at First Tuesday, an outstanding service organization for women run by my good friend and colleague Marcy Cole. The talk was about how to overcome negativity. In a spirited 45min, I shared with the audience practical tools that take anyone’s state from ‘blah’ to ‘yeehah’ in mere seconds, including:
- The ‘Yes’ technique
- The pen technique
- The FRC protocol (Feel-Rise-Choose)
- The color-water-shape-number technique <– deadly effective!
- Supremely corny jokes sure to lift your spirits (unless you’re a guy, ahem)
- And precisely one wagonload more
Right-click here to download: How to overcome negativity by Dr Ali Binazir (45min, 22mb)
[Note: There's a little bit of a rustling sound because the recorder was in my pocket, so I recommend that you listen to it without headphones for a more pleasurable experience.]
Be sure to comment here and let me know how they work for you. Here in the lab, we can use all the feedback we can get…
Have you ever had someone in your life whose voice alone was enough to put you on edge? Someone in whose presence you behaved in ways you didn’t like? Say, a coworker or relative?
Have there been situations which consistently trigger behavior you’re not proud of? For example, when someone cuts you off on the road and you turn into a cussing, frothing maniac?
If so, congratulations! This means you’re human, and we like you like that. Nematodes and arthropods can be so dull sometimes. And if you’d like to have more choice in how you respond in these situations, I’m happy to report that there’s hope.
In fact, that’s one of the most common topics my hypnotherapy clients bring up these days. I’ve been proposing a remedy for them which they’ve found useful. I call it the FRC Protocol. It stands for Feel, Rise, Choose.
The first step is to Feel. You’ve been conditioned to have a certain response to a given stimulus — say, the voice of your mom. And you know what? That’s okay. You are allowed to feel. Not feeling means you stop being human. Suppressing the feeling is not the solution either — that just amplifies it and makes it pop up bigger and badder at inconvenient times, like a poorly trained pet dragon. So go ahead and feel.
The feeling part is important because it’s your reminder to go to Step 2, which is Rise. Am I asking you to levitate? Absolutely — and I know you can do it. For some intriguing reason, we humans possess the gift of meta-cognition. This is the ability to have thoughts about thoughts, feelings about feelings. It may be the chief skill enabling enlightenment.
So let the not-so-pleasant feeling in Step 2 be your trigger to ask yourself, “Okay, now I’m feeling vindictive /belittled /petty/ like I want to wring someone’s neck out. How do I feel about THAT?”
This is the act of meta-cognition: having a new feeling about a feeling. And the funny thing about it is that (more…)