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Comment on ‘Happiness Project’ by Gretchen Rubin Video Review by solidmastery

solidmastery — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:42:36 +0000

Bout time…
Dr. Alex is bringing the intellectual heat.
After reading your Tao posts in my google reader, I was inspired to make 2, count them 2, twitter posts (www.twitter.com/solidmastery)
1. The six second hug
2. The cnn article on love

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Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by makahol1

makahol1 — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 21:12:55 +0000

Justin, Three of the fingers on my right hand are webbed together. I always allowed myself to feel inferior. Please do not waste your time feeling down about this. You will have to search a little harder to find the right one but isn't it worth it to meet someone that respects and loves you for YOU? My face and body would be considered beautiful (36-27-36, green eyes, blonde hair) but I have this hand that does not fit with the rest of me. The thing is ....I work really hard on the rest of me! I love myself ..flaws and all! Anyway, I bet you are a good listener..chicks love a guy that listens! Big Hugs,pc

I adapt to survive. I have always been considered beautiful.

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by dralexbenzer

dralexbenzer — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 19:53:33 +0000

The Almodovar tip is gold! Thanks for helping Justin out.

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by dralexbenzer

dralexbenzer — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 19:52:25 +0000

Mel -
Thanks for the comment!
Here's what I'm thinking. The Tao of Dating system has 5 steps:
1) Figure out who you are and what you want.
2) Go where you can find what you want -- in your case, quality men.
3) Meet them where they are -- get the conversation started.
4) Attract them into your life.
5) Keep them part of your life.
When you're not exactly sure about what you want - what truly fulfills you -- sometimes you can get blindsided because someone comes along who feels good to be around, but actually isn't right for you.
I'd also urge you to take a gander at the section in the book on how to spot Bad Boys (Chapter 5). If you're a subscriber, you'll get the whole section in the email.
Best
AB

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by Excuses « Want to get high, punk?

Excuses « Want to get high, punk? — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 23:54:18 +0000

[...] This is just a summary of Dr. Alex’s article, I highly recommend you read this short, concise article in full. You can read it here. [...]

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by Charismatico

Charismatico — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:09:18 +0000

Nicely said.

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by iwantsocialgo

iwantsocialgo — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:04:39 +0000

What ever happened to someone liking you for who you are and not what you have got. From a womans perspective, its actually about the way you make us feel. Why do women go for the bad boys? Because they are unavailable and scarcity is attractive. We all want what we perceive that we cant have. How about you work on your confidence and make it seem that you are in demand with lots of women wanting to spend time with you? Change your story to one of confidence and of abundance and not one of lacking. Much more attractive.

Comment on What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps by charismatico

charismatico — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:51:21 +0000

Hello Dr. Benzer,

Here is my reply to this article.
Justin your blindness is such an unfair advantage like Dr. Benzer mentioned. If I have that handicapped of yours I will be the slickest blind guy in the neighborhood. If the girl asked me where is my car? My reply will be "I took a walk all the way here to meet with you. Since you are nice enough to meet with me I am pretty sure you will be nice enough to drive me home." Then maybe explain to her why you are not able to drive once you get in the car.
You can also use your handicapped as an approach. Let the women help you cross the street and even hold there hand. If you are interested in the person asked them how they look like and touch there face. You can also be super cocky if you know that the person is attracted to you. Instead of grabbing her hand grab her butt and you can always use your blindness as an excuse.
Gee, I should follow my own advice. I will wear the darkest glasses and ask the first attractive woman I see to help me cross the street.
Tip: Go watch, oops I forgot Justin have problem seeing. Anyway, go see/listen to Almodovar's movie "Broken Embraces." The main character is a blind writer. The beggining of the movie is awesome. You will get some technique from this guy on how to pick up women and get them to bed.

signing out,

Charismatico

Comment on Project Superman, Episode 1 by online dating site

online dating site — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 04:16:27 +0000

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

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Comment on How to Love Your Enemies by Mary

Mary — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 00:10:16 +0000

I think this is a solid principle we keep having to remind ourselves of over again and again. I've practiced this with raising children to separate the behavior from the child. I've also learned we have to take responsibility ourselves for how others treat us. We can teach others how to treat us in a kind and loving manner with also getting them to respect our boundaries. It's amazing how this can inspire attraction in others. Thank you for the very insightful videos..Keep them coming please.