Comments on: Dating Advice for Women – Trust Issues: Should I Stay or Should I Go? http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/ The smart person's source for dating advice and information on persuasion, sexuality, networking and other essential life skills they never taught you at school Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:42:36 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Nicole S. Urdang http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1697 Nicole S. Urdang Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:57:31 +0000 http://taoofdating.com/?p=106#comment-1697 Hi Dr. Alex,<br><br>This is a great site.<br>I though you might like to trade links with mine: <a href="http://holisticdivorcecounseling.com" rel="nofollow">holisticdivorcecounseling.com</a><br>It's for all of life's transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.<br><br>Namaste,<br>Nicole Hi Dr. Alex,

This is a great site.
I though you might like to trade links with mine: holisticdivorcecounseling.com
It's for all of life's transitions, not just the cosmic hazing of divorce.

Namaste,
Nicole

]]> By: Scott http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1700 Scott Sat, 31 Oct 2009 17:21:01 +0000 http://taoofdating.com/?p=106#comment-1700 Lisa, I feel for you. I just got out of a relationship with my wife who has been cheating on me for at least 2 of our 4 years of marriage. When I confronted her, it was my fault....another story.<br><br>You know a tree by its fruit. You already know some very crucial fruits from this man. You said it well when you mentioned you have already "Invested" in the relationship. You gave too much without the proper time or infomration worthy of your investment. Guard your heart, it is the well spring of your life. <br><br>And if you are in a relationship with a man who is exclusive and there were trust issues, I, as a man, would permit you to look at my phone, text, email, voicemail any time with out warning. If I loved you AND was honest, I would care about your past wounds and do everything in my power to help you feel safe. What could possibly be in there that I would need to hide from you except maybe your surprise birthday party?<br><br>Peace to you. Lisa, I feel for you. I just got out of a relationship with my wife who has been cheating on me for at least 2 of our 4 years of marriage. When I confronted her, it was my fault….another story.

You know a tree by its fruit. You already know some very crucial fruits from this man. You said it well when you mentioned you have already “Invested” in the relationship. You gave too much without the proper time or infomration worthy of your investment. Guard your heart, it is the well spring of your life.

And if you are in a relationship with a man who is exclusive and there were trust issues, I, as a man, would permit you to look at my phone, text, email, voicemail any time with out warning. If I loved you AND was honest, I would care about your past wounds and do everything in my power to help you feel safe. What could possibly be in there that I would need to hide from you except maybe your surprise birthday party?

Peace to you.

]]> By: Anisa http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1699 Anisa Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:52:20 +0000 http://taoofdating.com/?p=106#comment-1699 It as simple as dr. Alex says: Feeling good and fulfilled in your association with him : stay. Feeling miserable: run.<br><br>Some (maybe many) women (like me) feel very quickly and strongly attached to a guy with who we had sex. And we call that "love". Big BIG mistake!! <br>It's exactly what Alex says: "It a Whitney Houston martyr complex nonsense!" Men are capable of having sex without any feeling of attachment or even affection let alone "love". It was/is very hard to accept (to me), but now I know it's the "naked" truth.<br>Nowadays it is a well known fact to men that women get strongly attached by sex. It is not fair but it is like it is. Take care. It as simple as dr. Alex says: Feeling good and fulfilled in your association with him : stay. Feeling miserable: run.

Some (maybe many) women (like me) feel very quickly and strongly attached to a guy with who we had sex. And we call that “love”. Big BIG mistake!!
It's exactly what Alex says: “It a Whitney Houston martyr complex nonsense!” Men are capable of having sex without any feeling of attachment or even affection let alone “love”. It was/is very hard to accept (to me), but now I know it's the “naked” truth.
Nowadays it is a well known fact to men that women get strongly attached by sex. It is not fair but it is like it is. Take care.

]]> By: Chrissie http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1698 Chrissie Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:13:31 +0000 http://taoofdating.com/?p=106#comment-1698 I have to disagree with Dr. Alex about not messing with his phone for the simple reason that if you're having sex with this man, you have to protect yourself. If not, you will<br>probably end up with an STD or HIV. Someone who has nothing to hide will not go ballistic when his girlfriend of one year wants to play a game on his phone. This guy you chose sounds like he's not ready for a relationship with you. I have my fingers crossed that you didn't bring any children into this mess because they will be the losers in the long run. I would say dump him yesterday. If you have children, don't even think of dating and ruining their lives because you really sound like a bad picker of men. I think you need some time away from men to clear your head and mature so you can see the red flags from the get go and not get involved with men who dump all over you. Life is short so it's time to make your move out of there. Good luck to you. I have to disagree with Dr. Alex about not messing with his phone for the simple reason that if you're having sex with this man, you have to protect yourself. If not, you will
probably end up with an STD or HIV. Someone who has nothing to hide will not go ballistic when his girlfriend of one year wants to play a game on his phone. This guy you chose sounds like he's not ready for a relationship with you. I have my fingers crossed that you didn't bring any children into this mess because they will be the losers in the long run. I would say dump him yesterday. If you have children, don't even think of dating and ruining their lives because you really sound like a bad picker of men. I think you need some time away from men to clear your head and mature so you can see the red flags from the get go and not get involved with men who dump all over you. Life is short so it's time to make your move out of there. Good luck to you.

]]> By: barbara53 http://taoofdating.com/dating-advice-for-women-trust-issues-stay-or-go/comment-page-1/#comment-1667 barbara53 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:29:58 +0000 http://taoofdating.com/?p=106#comment-1667 You deserve someone better. Don't waste any more time with this guy, unless you don't really love yourself and feel fulfilled by his ill treatment of you! You deserve someone better. Don't waste any more time with this guy, unless you don't really love yourself and feel fulfilled by his ill treatment of you!

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