Also, she needs to date several men and not stop looking as soon as she dates one interesting guy. She doesn’t need to flaunt it, but she should do it even if it’s against her instincts. (I am working on this too.)

They’re just not necessarily the kind of thing that men find attractive – things that make them feel good around you.

Did you touch him with that soft feminine touch of yours on the date?

Did you look straight into his eyes with the look of “you’re the greatest man in the world” when he was talking about his hobbies, then squeeze his elbow when he was really excited?

Did you ask about all his interests and passions, then listen with full attention without interrupting him when he rambled on?

Did you rub his arm, hand or back? Did you have an amazing makeout session? Did you rock his world in the sack?

ok what these all say to me is “did you lie to him convincingly enough.” these are the things that i’m sick of hearing in dating advice. lies break down and people can tell eventually when they’re being humored. it makes you feel like a dog. if you find someone you click with you might actually be interested in the same things. if you want to talk about ‘dating for fulfillment” then how about chilling on the whole “make myself irresistible” front and maybe just let people be people. someone will be interested in you and when a couple of people actually click instead of purposely molding themselves for each other it’s leagues more “fulfilling.” if you don’t click with anyone you know, find new friends. they’re out there i promise. i know it’s all a little “warts and all” but apparently it needs to be said.