Howdy and welcome, esteemed visitor. This blog is meant for smart folks who are looking to improve their love lives and become the best possible version of themselves in the process. I draw upon Western science, Eastern wisdom and good old horse sense to come up with my stuff — hope you find it eminently useful.
As for credentials: got an A.B. magna cum laude from Harvard College, an M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, and an M.Phil. from Cambridge University. I’m also a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner. I’ve consulted for Fortune 100 companies as an Associate at McKinsey & Company and maintain a hypnotherapy practice in Los Angeles, California.
How this is relevant to you is that I’ve studied behavioral change a fair amount and have gotten some good results with people who wanted to implement change in their lives. My philosophy is simple: Don’t just listen to me. Instead, test out for yourself the ideas I present to you. The last words of the Buddha were Be ye lights unto thine selves, which roughly means go out there and figure out stuff on your own. If the ideas work for you, use ‘em. If not, move on and use something else. I’m committed to helping you live a more joyous, fulfilled life and become the best possible version of you. Would be fabulous if you’d like to come along for the ride.
I’m the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women (under the name Alex Benzer which I have since retired) and the audio courses The Tao of Persuasion and The Tao of Networking. My most recent book, The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible, just came out in 2010.

