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How to communicate to get what you want and need: guest article by Marni Battista

Ladies —

I’ll be doing a teleclass with my friend and colleague Marni Battista on Mon 7 Nov 2011 at 5pm Pacific time, and I thought I’d introduce you to her via this article of hers. As a coach who has helped hundreds of clients, she brings a lot of practical know-how about empowering yourself to find fulfillment. And as someone who was married for 17 years, she brings a lot of personal experience to bear as well.

I particularly like her message about self-care and clear communication. Here’s the article, and I hope you can join us on Monday (and if you can’t be there for the live call, sign up to get the recording afterwards). — Dr Ali B

How to Communicate to Get What You Want and Need by Marni Battista, DatingWithDignity.com (more…)

The dirty secret of goddesses

When I first wrote The Tao of Dating for Women, its subtitle was How to Embrace Your Inner Goddess and Find the Fulfillment You Deserve. Aside from not rolling trippingly off the tongue, I found that many women took issue with the word goddess. Whether it set an impossible standard of perfection or sounded too woo-woo, it just bugged them.

Well, today I had a little epiphany as I was thinking about some good ol’ Greek and Roman mythology. If you’ve read any of that stuff, you’ll know that, far from being perfect, them gods out-imperfected humans only like a deity can. They were petty, outta-control horny, vindictive, greedy, deceptive, cruel and just plain damaged folks. Think Zeus, Aphrodite, Neptune — any of them really — and all the havoc they wrought.

What made them gods and goddesses was (more…)

The problem with Disney romance

Sometimes I wonder whether the challenges my female friends and readers experience in love doesn’t stem from the Western narrative of romance: find some prince, fall in love and get married happily ever after. Well, Disney certainly doesn’t help. This here picture just about sums it up:

Tip #4 of 20: Always leave him wanting more

Dating is like a story. It has a beginning, middle and end. It’s got characters, cliffhangers and climaxes (if you’re lucky). So, like Sheherezade in the legend of 1001 Arabian Nights, you want to stop the story at a point that the King wants to know what happens next so badly that he comes back for more the next day.

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Tip #20 of 20: For a long-term union, make sure you connect with your partner at all three levels of heart, mind AND body.

Thanks for visiting! I’m eager to hear your thoughts on this tip, so please leave your comment below. The best ones become part of the next edition of “The Best Dating Advice I Ever Got.”