Dating is like a story. It has a beginning, middle and end. It’s got characters, cliffhangers and climaxes (if you’re lucky). So, like Sheherezade in the legend of 1001 Arabian Nights, you want to stop the story at a point that the King wants to know what happens next so badly that he comes back for more the next day.
This is called the art of always leaving him wanting more. It’s caressing the back of his neck so he wonders what it’s like to kiss you. It’s kissing him on the cheek so he’ll wonder what it’s like to make out with you. It’s wearing a provocative dress (and keeping it on) so he can’t stop wondering about what’s underneath. It means saying you find him interesting without necessarily revealing the true depth of your affection.
It’s called keeping him guessing a little bit. It just makes things more interesting.
Granted, it’s your party, too, so eventually you will want to taste some cake yourself. But at least in the initial stages of courtship, you should refrain from giving away the whole store. If you sleep with him immediately and tell him you’re crazy for him, what’s left for him to look forward to? That’s no fun. So keep your power by tantalizing him, but not to the point of making either of you miserable from deprivation. The result of too much delayed gratification is often just delay.