Tip #13 of 20: Go for Victor, not Lance or Biff
There are two main characteristics you’re looking for in a guy. One is spine – his strength, decisiveness, masculine essence. The other is heart – his compassion, consideration and caring.
A guy with a lot of spine and no heart is a macho brute – Biff, as I like to call him. Most bad boys fall in this category, and although they may be a fun ride to start, they will cause you unlimited grief. A guy with a lot of heart but no spine is a sensitive new-age guy, or Lance. Most yuppie guys are Lances, stuck somewhere between trying to be chivalrous and acting tough. They will annoy you in the long run. And the guy who has both spine and heart is Victor. He is strong. He is compassionate. He’s a stud.
The Victor is rare, but he’s out there. Now that you know he exists, you know what to look for. He’s in control without being controlling, dominant without being domineering, sweet without being a pushover. He’s got direction and he’s got balance. And he knows how to take care of business, of himself, and of you. Settle for nothing less.
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Tip #4 of 20: Always leave him wanting more
Dating is like a story. It has a beginning, middle and end. It’s got characters, cliffhangers and climaxes (if you’re lucky). So, like Sheherezade in the legend of 1001 Arabian Nights, you want to stop the story at a point that the King wants to know what happens next so badly that he comes back for more the next day.
This is called the art of (more…)
Tip #3 of 20: You are already a goddess, so feel free to act like one.
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Tip #2 of 20: Be a champion listener.
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