Meet my friend Bart. As a surgeon, every day at work he’s entrusted with the lives of others, and he handles the job well. He’s a genuinely gifted fellow. He’s also fit, healthy, and well-rounded.
In other words, Bart has made a lot of great decisions in his life, and continues to do [...]
Here’s a great summary of some of the current thinking on what happens to your noggin when you’re in love (or lust). The name of one of the researchers is Timothy Loving — you can’t make that kind of thing up.
(CNN) — Poets, novelists and songwriters have described it in countless turns of phrase, but [...]
I had my first kiss when I was 19.
Her name was Emma. She was also 19, with an irresistible English accent and very cute to boot. I was pretty sure that I was going to marry her.
Except that she dumped me, pulverizing my heart into nanoparticles. It was the only time in my life that [...]
If Aristotle was correct in calling happiness the summum bonum of life — the chief good, the ultimate thing we all strive for in all our strivings — then The Happiness Project is a sure-fire recipe for having more of it.
A fun, funny and wise book written by Gretchen Rubin, a regular HuffingtonPost.com [...]
Awright boys and girls. I’m going to make this quick and I’m going to make this sweet.
In 24hrs, you will have one of the best opportunities for ‘success’ with with the opposite sex, however you define that for yourself. Or at least of meeting someone new.
This is because Thursday, 31 December 2009 is New Year’s [...]
What compels me to write this article today is a recent trip to the Harvard-Yale Game festivities, reminding me of how smart, educated women routinely sabotage their own chances for romantic fulfillment.
Here’s a great letter that a reader wrote to me recently. It brings up so many great issues — for younger women, older women, pretty women and women who worry whether they’ll stay pretty:
Hi Dr. Alex,
I’m depressed, bummed (child of 70s) and I need help. At least I hope you read this…
Some background: I’m [...]
Hi Dr. Alex! I’ve been forwarded many of your emails from a friend and I enjoy reading them. Now I have my own questions…
Here goes nothing! So, I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He works in the same building as I do that’s how we met. He’s 15 years [...]
Whenever someone writes a book, people ask, “How did you come up with the idea? How long did it take you? Do you really use a manual 1973 Smith-Corona typewriter to do your manuscript? And type it with your feet?”
But when a guy writes a dating book for women, the questions [...]
Many of you wrote in after video blog #6 asking, “How am I supposed to love my enemies? I mean, they’re my enemies! This makes no sense!”
Hey, I hear ya. So here’s a little explanation of that concept as I understand it. Make sure to rate the video and comment [...]
As you already know, the title of the book for women is The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible.
But what if that just doesn’t suit someone? What if there’s a woman out there who frankly wants to be resistible? Well, that’s what this video’s about. At the end of [...]
One of the most moving visits of my trip was to the great city of Warsaw. In this video, I tell you exactly what made it so moving and how it relates to your personal resurrection.
Especially if you think you’re in a slump, down in the dumps, at the end of your [...]
Hey guys. Thanks a lot for your enthusiastic response to the videos. One of you even recognized me in church service the other day and said hi. This stuff gets around – who knew!
Here’s another video to stimulate some thinking and reconsideration.
I’d always wondered what it meant to ‘love your enemy’ and it never made [...]
Thanks for your super-enthusiastic response to the ‘Project Love’ video. Seems like it struck a resonant chord with a lot of you.
The key thing to remember is to just get back to basics sometimes.
So often we get caught up in the adult world of upholding our own supposed importance that we forget the simple [...]
This video from Riga, Latvia is the first in a series that I made on my trip. They’re really quick, but if you apply the principle I talk about, you can radically transform your life – I kid thee not.
The idea of projecting love may sound a bit foreign and new-agey at first, but I [...]
Finally, after years of telling myself “I’ll spend this summer in Europe,” I got my act together and went for a monthlong trip to Northeast Europe. Not only was it a great experience, but it also reminded me of the power of travel to heal the soul and expand the mind:
1. You increase your patience. [...]
Recently I’ve been noticing a spate of breakups amongst my female friends.
Just last week I was having dinner with Katie on her birthday. She was coming off a 6-year relationship with her boyfriend Dustin. Katie’s 30; he was 41.
You could tell that the breakup was still stinging three months after the fact. Frankly, I [...]
Greetings from Berlin, one of the greenest cities I’ve ever visited. My balcony overlooks the tree-filled back yard, and there’s intermittent sunshine coming in through a cloud-dappled sky.
Here’s a letter from one of my readers Susan F. about the article ‘7 Things You Should Always Do On A Date’ (which you can read about here [...]
Yesterday I came across this fantastic article on happiness by Joshua Wolf Shenk (a college classmate of mine, coincidentally) in The Atlantic Monthly on the Grant Study, the longest longitudinal study of happiness ever conducted. Its findings are revelatory, beautiful, sobering, instructive, encouraging and altogether amazing. As it turns out, some of the participants in [...]
When the going gets tough, the tough get meditating.
A few weekends ago I had the privilege of attending The Soul of Success seminar with Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra in Los Angeles.
In these times of economic uncertainty, Marianne and Deepak had decided to transmit a message of spiritual and economic empowerment to their audience.
As a [...]
On Wednesday 15 July 2009, we finally had the much-anticipated reading at the world-infamous LA independent bookstore Book Soup. It was a full house, and the spirited audience had some fine questions ready for me. They also took care of the case of prosecco in very short order — impressive.
Here’s a video of the first [...]
I get many letters like this from readers (both male and female):
“I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn’t try to kiss me, then he called/didn’t call back, then he asked/didn’t ask me out again, and what does it all mean is he interested what [...]
For the ladies –
I’ll be interviewed by my friend and colleague Dr Eva Selhub, author of The Love Response, on iamhealthyradio.com today at 4pm EDT/ 1pm PDT.
We’ll be discussing The Tao of Dating for Women and fulfillment-centered relationships.
Some of the topics we’ll be touching upon:
How to know if you’re in a subpar relationship, and how [...]
Finally, I’m joining the 21st century and using this whole newfangled video thing. Thrilling!
This is a topic that is best illustrated visually, since that’s how those pernicious little beasties called fashion magazines inflict their damage. I rant about this in The Tao of Dating for Women fairly extensively — the entire beginning of Chapter [...]
Angie writes from Australia regarding the “On Bad Boys and How to Spot Them” article she received via email:
I thought this was excellent and could put a huge TICK on each…but what worries me, is:
Am i attracted to these bad boys because there is a part of them inside me too? Does that mean i [...]
Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles. As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry.
They kept on going back and forth, with [...]
Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, which reminded me of the Ten Commandments.
That’s because there’s only one measly commandment telling you what to do: ‘honor thy father and thy mother.’ The remaining nine are a relentless barrage of ‘thou shalt nots’, telling you what not to do.
So if you were to follow them to the [...]
This reader brings up a great question:
Hi! Alex,
I have been enjoying your autoresponder updates. Thank you! I am grateful that my friend told me about you!
My question is:
When a man uses vulgar language (mainly the “f” word) around me (and we are just getting to know one another), how do I let him know that [...]
Today I want to talk a little bit about confidence. It’s probably more a yang (masculine) quality than a yin (feminine) one. But I’ll just assume it’s of general interest and address both the men and the women.
First of all, what the heck is confidence? It’s what linguists call a nominalization – basically a [...]
Here’s a great letter I got recently:
I have a question about a guy. I think you stated I get one free consult question?? I was introduced to a great guy who is the best friend of my best friend’s husband so there is a lot of history there that I knew about before [...]
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If you don't think you're smart, fine. If you want to be resistible, fine. Otherwise, you need to get this book for yourself you smart woman you. 'Cause it's life-changingly awesome, that's all.
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