Ladies — allow me to let you in on a huge secret that will save you oodles of time, money, energy and grief. Men are definitely visual creatures, so you have to be a man’s type in order for him to feel attracted to you. However, if you’re not his type, there’s almost no beauty trick you can do – heels, lipstick, eyeliner, plastic surgery, Spanx – that will make him hot for you. And if you are his type, you could be wearing a burlap sack and he’d still want you.
This means that most of the effort women put into making themselves look good beyond just looking decent and presentable – eg four different highlights in the hair, trendy super-cute dress, ultra-fancy shoes that cost you a week’s pay – is lost upon men (the straight ones, at least). It just doesn’t register on their radars.
What do we men notice? Your energy, your vivacity, your radiance. That kind of thing is contagious, and when you feel good, we feel good around you, too. And we want to be around you more.
So exercising, going to a yoga class, meditating a bit or reading something inspirational do far more for your attractiveness than time spent taming your hair or manipulating your complexion. Once the right man has found you attractive enough to seek out your company, he’s looking for the beauty that lights you up from within. So working on feeling good always pays off more.
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