“Understanding Men” Lecture (audio)

This week, I gave a talk in San Francisco entitled Understanding Men: On the election, sexism, insecurity, and your love life. I started with a story about my mom, who was a butt-kicking professional woman in Iran, and how she refused to put up with the sexist nonsense that the fundamentalists were propounding after the Revolution. From there, I spoke about how the male vote in the 2016 Presidential elections relates to men’s feelings about dating smart, strong women. The 15min excerpt below talks about the prime directives in male and female behavior, and how that creates three choices for strong women when it comes to choosing and relating to a man:

Excerpt from “Understanding Men” 5 Dec 2016

A lot of people were sad to have missed it because of time (or distance) conflict, and asked for a replay. So I’ve edited the talk to 57min and made it available for download. People who attended live paid $15-20, so I’ve decided to let you name a fair price for the download — somewhere between two 3-minute songs from your favorite Justin Bieber album, or the full album. NOTE: Downloads don’t work well from mobile devices, so please make the purchase from a computer.

Other topics covered in this talk:

  • The two components of partnership with a Good Guy: spot him, and partner with him; how to do it
  • Knowing the difference between mere marketing bluster and honest signals
  • The implicit association test (IAT) and what it says about misogyny amongst women
  • Pernicious sources of female insecurity
  • Perfectionism as a form of covert self-loathing, and what to do instead
  • An exercise for rewiring your brain to tame your negative inner voice

Click here to purchase the full lecture.

Tue Dec 13: How to Meet Good Men Over the Holidays

In the meantime, on Tue 13 December, a week from today, even though I object to the word “webinar”, I’ll be holding the free webinar “How to Meet Good Men Over the Holidays”, just ’cause I like you guys so much. Also, over the 15 years I’ve been teaching this stuff, one thing I’ve learned: most women could be better at meeting men. A lot better. “Nice girls don’t do that”, “It’s the guy’s job”, “What do I even say?” — it’s time to jettison those excuses and expand your repertoire of skills beyond just standing there and looking pretty. We’ve already got 200 signups, so register here so you get the reminders, esp since I’ll be doing live Q&A at the end.

And do send your questions. Under 250 words, and make sure it contains a question regarding the outcome you desire!

Go forth and conquer, Dr Ali

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