We first started talking about how friction is the enemy. Then we discussed technique #1 for managing it – namely, bypassing it. Then we covered overcoming friction – technique #2.
Today, I’m going to talk about technique #3 – obliterating friction.
This is the idea of getting rid of friction permanently.
Permanently? Yes, permanently.
In Taoism, this is called [...]
Yesterday, we talked about how to bypass friction, especially when it comes to meeting women.
Today, I’m going to talk a little bit about how to overcome friction.
Basically, here’s the scenario: you’ve seen her. You’d like to meet her, but you’ve taken too long and your brain’s ‘aw crap’ mechanism has already kicked in. [...]
Thanks for your super-enthusiastic response to yesterday’s article on Friction: The Enemy.
Seems like we touched a nerve there, since so many of you signed up for the Approach Clinic before even knowing what time it was happening.
Good to know the natives are hungry.
Well then. I’m happy to serve, so let’s deliver some more.
In the [...]
Some wise person (and wiseguy) once said, “We have found the enemy, and it is us.”
I first heard that when I was a teenager, and frankly it made no sense.
Then I heard it again after studying some Eastern philosophy, and I thought, “Yes, that is profound indeed.”
Now after really getting into Eastern wisdom and understanding [...]
Meet my friend Bart. As a surgeon, every day at work he’s entrusted with the lives of others, and he handles the job well. He’s a genuinely gifted fellow. He’s also fit, healthy, and well-rounded.
In other words, Bart has made a lot of great decisions in his life, and continues to do [...]
Here’s a great summary of some of the current thinking on what happens to your noggin when you’re in love (or lust). The name of one of the researchers is Timothy Loving — you can’t make that kind of thing up.
(CNN) — Poets, novelists and songwriters have described it in countless turns of phrase, but [...]
Awright, troops. So far eight of you have responded to the Haiti Challenge. Each of these gentlemen has donated $25 or more to Physicians in Health (pih.org) in support of their relief efforts in Haiti. Here they are:
Stephen B of Alberta
Tyler M of Austin
Kevin W of Idaho
Matthew C of Pennsylvania
Wade H of California
Matt [...]
Got this great letter from Kristi in Portland, Oregon, and thought I’d share it with the group. It’s great advice for our good man Justin from Rochester (for whom being legally blind presented a challenge in his love life) and I agree with it.
Here’s the thing: at the outset of a relationship, we’re all in [...]
Gentlemen –
As those of you on my mailing list know, today (actually in 15min) is the first installment of Project Superman. It’s a little bit hush-hush, so if you want to get in on the action, make sure you sign up for the men’s newsletter here on the left, and we’ll catch you on the [...]
Awright boys and girls. I’m going to make this quick and I’m going to make this sweet.
In 24hrs, you will have one of the best opportunities for ‘success’ with with the opposite sex, however you define that for yourself. Or at least of meeting someone new.
This is because Thursday, 31 December 2009 is New Year’s [...]
Here’s the audio recording of the preview teleseminar for the new Metamorphosis Program for men starting Monday 19 October. It’s a crazy amount of information, including how to design your own 30-day program for dating breakthrough and the exact steps to training yourself to become a multiorgasmic man. Download by right-clicking here: awesome seminar [...]
Many of you wrote in after video blog #6 asking, “How am I supposed to love my enemies? I mean, they’re my enemies! This makes no sense!”
Hey, I hear ya. So here’s a little explanation of that concept as I understand it. Make sure to rate the video and comment [...]
Here’s a little video I made for you to make the case for becoming a multiorgasmic man, including the first basic steps of your training. Check it out, and show signs of life by rating it and commenting on it. And if you like it, share with friends by tweeting it out and [...]
One of the most moving visits of my trip was to the great city of Warsaw. In this video, I tell you exactly what made it so moving and how it relates to your personal resurrection.
Especially if you think you’re in a slump, down in the dumps, at the end of your [...]
Hey guys. Thanks a lot for your enthusiastic response to the videos. One of you even recognized me in church service the other day and said hi. This stuff gets around – who knew!
Here’s another video to stimulate some thinking and reconsideration.
I’d always wondered what it meant to ‘love your enemy’ and it never made [...]
Thanks for your super-enthusiastic response to the ‘Project Love’ video. Seems like it struck a resonant chord with a lot of you.
The key thing to remember is to just get back to basics sometimes.
So often we get caught up in the adult world of upholding our own supposed importance that we forget the simple [...]
This video from Riga, Latvia is the first in a series that I made on my trip. They’re really quick, but if you apply the principle I talk about, you can radically transform your life – I kid thee not.
The idea of projecting love may sound a bit foreign and new-agey at first, but I [...]
Finally, after years of telling myself “I’ll spend this summer in Europe,” I got my act together and went for a monthlong trip to Northeast Europe. Not only was it a great experience, but it also reminded me of the power of travel to heal the soul and expand the mind:
1. You increase your patience. [...]
Yesterday I came across this fantastic article on happiness by Joshua Wolf Shenk (a college classmate of mine, coincidentally) in The Atlantic Monthly on the Grant Study, the longest longitudinal study of happiness ever conducted. Its findings are revelatory, beautiful, sobering, instructive, encouraging and altogether amazing. As it turns out, some of the participants in [...]
When the going gets tough, the tough get meditating.
A few weekends ago I had the privilege of attending The Soul of Success seminar with Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra in Los Angeles.
In these times of economic uncertainty, Marianne and Deepak had decided to transmit a message of spiritual and economic empowerment to their audience.
As a [...]
I get many letters like this from readers (both male and female):
“I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn’t try to kiss me, then he called/didn’t call back, then he asked/didn’t ask me out again, and what does it all mean is he interested what [...]
While we’re on the topic of masculinity, here’s a video from my ‘Transformation Weekend’ seminar I did some time back. Thanks for all of your positive feedback on it so far — we’re working on making an audio product of the seminar ready. In the meantime, enjoy the video, and feel free to rate it [...]
Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles. As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry.
They kept on going back and forth, with [...]
Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, which reminded me of the Ten Commandments.
That’s because there’s only one measly commandment telling you what to do: ‘honor thy father and thy mother.’ The remaining nine are a relentless barrage of ‘thou shalt nots’, telling you what not to do.
So if you were to follow them to the [...]
This reader brings up a great question:
Hi! Alex,
I have been enjoying your autoresponder updates. Thank you! I am grateful that my friend told me about you!
My question is:
When a man uses vulgar language (mainly the “f” word) around me (and we are just getting to know one another), how do I let him know that [...]
Today I want to talk a little bit about confidence. It’s probably more a yang (masculine) quality than a yin (feminine) one. But I’ll just assume it’s of general interest and address both the men and the women.
First of all, what the heck is confidence? It’s what linguists call a nominalization – basically a [...]
I had the pleasure of meeting Dr Eva at a conference here in LA last month where she was speaking. As is my habit with all readings, I purchased her book and had her sign it (gotta support your friendly neighborhood fellow author, y’know).
At the time, my reading queue was over 30 deep, and I [...]
The teleseminar I’m holding tonight, Thursday 19 March 2009, will elaborate on the concepts from the previous post. It’s free to join us on the call, although there’s only room for 200 listeners, so call in early:
Date: Thu 19 March 2009
Time: 6pm PDT/9pm EDT
Duration: about 60min
Call-in #: 218 486 1300
Access code: 667202
It’s totally, completely and [...]
Some of you, my astute readers, already noticed that the dating challenges enumerated in the last article – focusing on careers instead of relationships, expecting to be loved for the wrong reasons, not acting like a sexual being, self-sabotaging and ego identity – are not just specific to smart people. They’re specific to people. [...]
I have a mini-confession to make: I wrote the Tao of Dating books specifically for really smart people. The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus, as I observed them as an advisor and earlier, indulged in them as a student.
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue [...]
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