Tao of Dating Experiment: ‘Miles to go before I sleep’
AB: Another frank, spirited post from The Phoenix. It’s not all rosy-colored out there… Comments below.
I can’t sleep. It’s 5:41 am, and I am WIDE awake. After 3 failed attempts at sleep, I have actually accomplished quite a few random tasks that needed to be done (bills paid, applications filled out, etc).
Then I start doing the WORST possible thing I can do at 5am. Unblocking the random people I worked so hard to block on a damn social networking site. Good grief. How old am I??? YOU ARE IN YOUR THIRTIES…not 13. This type of behavior reminds me of when my cousin used to make me go with her when she would drive by her crushes house periodically. It’s the equivalent of stalking, just digitally.
AB: Perhaps the social networking sites should be excised as part of the fast. You didn’t have them in 2003, and your life was fine then. I’d start with a 1-week holiday.
The Doctor asked me what I meant by my txt today, and it lead to a reasonably uncomfortable (more…)
Tao of Dating Experiment: ‘Caution: Construction Zone’
AB: This is The Phoenix’s follow-up from the date with the Helmeted Hottie (aka Motorcycle Man). My comments in italics.
Easy girl. Don’t get too excited just yet. Yes, the date went great and he’s even better looking in person….and the conversation was really good…and he seems to be on the same page….BUT IT’S A FIRST DATE.
***now would be a good time for that meditation***
So the Helmeted Hottie was really great. Better than expected. Granted, he may not be (more…)
Tao of Dating Experiment: ‘Get your motor running’
The Phoenix rides again — this time almost literally. My comments in italics.-AB
So I’ve probably read more of the Tao this weekend than I should have in one sitting. I got to the point where I couldn’t just stop, so I ended up reading several chapters. However, that play by play will have to wait.
Right now, I am sitting on my couch, dressed and ready to go meet a new prospect. I haven’t gotten to the part of the Tao that tells me whether or not online dating is a good or a bad thing, so I figure (more…)
Tao of Dating Experiment: ‘Absence makes the heart wander’
The Phoenix has a new entry up. I’m so proud of her! She’s really putting the material to use. It was my goal to present the material in the book in such a way that the readers would actually implement it, so it’s tremendously gratifying when someone does that. My hope is that these blog posts can be a catalyst for you, my dear reader sitting at her computer screen, to put the material to use as well.
My comments will be in italics henceforth.
Chapter 2: Who You Really Are
I read this chapter by candlelight while soaking in my tub last Thursday evening. It made such an impact that I have taken a week to marinate in the thoughts and the emotions that those thoughts stirred. I was already coping with the realization that it may not be the men in LA that are the problem, but the problem may just lie (more…)
The Tao of Dating Experiment: The Phoenix speaks
This is the first post by The Phoenix as part of The Tao of Dating Experiment. We’ll be putting up her posts here; you can also follow her postings at taoofdatingexperiment.blogspot.com.
Phoenix
–noun
1. a mythical bird of great beauty fabled to live 500 or 600 years in the Arabian wilderness, to burn itself on a funeral pyre, and to rise from its ashes in the freshness of youth and live through another cycle of years: often an emblem of immortality or of reborn idealism or hope.
2. a person or thing of peerless beauty or excellence; paragon.
3. a person or thing that has become renewed or restored after suffering calamity or apparent annihilation.
How did I get here? Odds are I’m probably a lot like you or someone you know. Female, early 30’s, reside in Los Angeles, California. I think most would consider me reasonably successful given my age (more…)
Official kickoff: The Tao of Dating Experiment for women
Just wanted all the ladies (and curious men) out there know that the Tao of Dating Experiment for Women has officially kicked off.
One of my friends here in Los Angeles volunteered (completely unbidden) to test out the principles in the book and to document, via blog, how it affects her life in the dating realm and beyond. She is a professional in her early thirties, successful, smart, quite attractive and single — in other words, precisely the kind of person The Tao of Dating is intended for.
I just handed her the text and audiobook, so the experiment begins right about now. One of the ground rules is that I am not to give her too much extra coaching other than that which she receives through the blog and the email coaching that comes as part of the course.
She’s fiercely independent and brutally honest, so I didn’t have to ask for an extra dose of that. She’s doing this completely anonymously (except for me and a couple of close friends), which has made for some frank discussion so far.
If the whole thing comes out pear-shaped, it’ll be here for the whole world to witness. Oh joy. The good news is that you’re bound to learn a lot about the Tao of Dating course through her writings and my comments. Join us for the adventure as Phoenix (her pen name) learns to fly again.
