The Tao of Dating by Dr. Ali Binazir

How do you make good decisions in ambiguous situations? The four Axelrod Criteria will hold you in good stead in many difficult decisions.

May 3rd, 2010 | Tags: Axelrod Criteria, dating, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, making better decisions, Robert Axelrod, Tao of Dating, The Evolution of Cooperation | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Leave a comment

Lately, women have been reporting on the proliferation of a peculiar creature in their neighborhoods. They say it’s hairy, communicates in grunts if at all, is always trying to gain their favor, doesn’t train very well, and tries to hump everything in sight.
Yup – men are everywhere. But we’re not nearly as baffling [...]

April 22nd, 2010 | Tags: corpus callosum, Dating Advice, dating advice for smart women, dating advice for women, dating bible for women, Dating Men, Evan Marc Katz, flirting with men, gender differences, how to get guys, how to understand men, men's idiosyncrasies, mono-tasking, multi-tasking, primer on men, relating to men, Relationship Advice, relationship tips, Relationships, Tao of Dating, tao of dating for women, understanding men | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (3)

My definition of a bad boy is simple: he is a boy (as opposed to a man) who is bad for you in the long term. By bad I mean that overall, he will bring more pain to your life than joy. Don’t get me wrong: there will be some good times with the bad boy. That’s why women get involved with them. But the net result tends to be more pain than joy.

March 24th, 2010 | Tags: bad boys, boyfriend, Charlie Sheen, dark triad, dating advice for women, Elin Nordegren, extremes of behavior, fling, fundamental attribution error, heartache, Jennifer Aniston, John Mayer, marriage, narcissism, Relationships, Romance, Sandra Bullock, tao of dating for women, thrillseeking, Tiger Woods | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (1)

Here’s a letter I got today which really got me thinking:
Hello Dr. Alex;
I recently purchased your book, “The Tao of Dating for Men”, and read through the entire book in two days (could not put it down).  I am going back now to read it in more depth and do the exercises.
First, I wanted to [...]

January 19th, 2010 | Tags: dating advice for men, dating advice for women, excuses, handicaps, Little Man of Nuremberg, Matthias Buchinger, Tao of Dating for Men, tao of dating for women | Category: Dating for Men & Women | Comments (7)

Little known fact: I went to high school in Los Angeles, so I’m kind of from Los Angeles.  So when I found myself back in LA after a long hiatus, it was a bit of a homecoming.  I looked forward to perpetually sunny climes, rollerblading on the boardwalk, and the general openness of the people.  [...]

January 11th, 2010 | Tags: alex benzer, Dating Actors, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, Entertainment Industry, Flakiness, Lack Of Pedestrian Culture, Large Distances, Nightlife, Public Transport, Sex Ratio, Singles In Los Angeles, Singles Map, Tao of Dating for Men, tao of dating for women, Unreliability | Category: Dating for Men & Women | Comments (1)

Awright boys and girls. I’m going to make this quick and I’m going to make this sweet.
In 24hrs, you will have one of the best opportunities for ‘success’ with with the opposite sex, however you define that for yourself. Or at least of meeting someone new.
This is because Thursday, 31 December 2009 is New Year’s [...]

December 30th, 2009 | Tags: Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, how to kiss a boy, how to kiss a girl, making out, Metamorphosis Program for men, midnight kiss, planning new year's eve, Tao of Dating, Tao of Persuasion | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Leave a comment

Here’s a great letter that a reader wrote to me recently. It brings up so many great issues — for younger women, older women, pretty women and women who worry whether they’ll stay pretty:
Hi Dr. Alex,
I’m depressed, bummed (child of 70s) and I need help.  At least I hope you read this…
Some background: I’m [...]

December 2nd, 2009 | Tags: abundance, alex benzer, Attractiveness, beauty, contempt, dating advice for older women, dating advice for women, dating tips for women, drop dead gorgeous, fertility, open-heartedness, plastic surgery, poverty, poverty-consciousness, proxy for fertility, radiance, Tao of Dating, wealth-consc, wealth-consciousness, when beauty fades | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (2)

Hi Dr. Alex!  I’ve been forwarded many of your emails from a friend and I enjoy reading them. Now I have my own questions…

Here goes nothing!  So, I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He works in the same building as I do that’s how we met. He’s 15 years [...]

October 30th, 2009 | Tags: alex benzer, Dating Advice, dating advice for women, dating tips for women, Excuse, Facebook, Fulfillment, Relationship, Tao of Dating, Trust Issues, Women Trust | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (5)

Whenever someone writes a book, people ask, “How did you come up with the idea? How long did it take you? Do you really use a manual 1973 Smith-Corona typewriter to do your manuscript? And type it with your feet?”
But when a guy writes a dating book for women, the questions [...]

October 23rd, 2009 | Tags: alex benzer, dating advice for women, origins of the book, Tao of Dating, why I wrote the book | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (1)