Dr. Ali Binazir, Happiness Engineer

Why the Pill may be secretly messing up your love life

A year after the 50th anniversary of the Pill, it thrills me that the news of women’s progress keeps coming. As of 2008, 57% of college graduates are women, and 26% of wives now out-earn their husbands. It’s not farfetched to say the Pill has been instrumental in making it […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 19 August 2011

“Is the universe screwing with me?”: The Old Flame question

Dr. Alex, I have a question.  Last week I saw a guy that I was pretty much in love with 20 years ago.  My first love and hard crush.  I haven’t seen him for years and saw him at Chipotle randomly one night.  Was that just the universe screwing with me […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 2 May 2011

9 Deadly Online Dating Profile Mistakes You Can Avoid Easily

As you know from reading The Tao of Dating for Women, I’m not a huge fan of online dating — face-to-face is the way to go.  However, on the heels of a friend’s success story — “Omigod, I met my fiance online!  You should totally try it!” — I make […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 29 December 2010

Better Dating Decisions Through Game Theory

How do you make good decisions in ambiguous situations? The four Axelrod Criteria will hold you in good stead in many difficult decisions.

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 4 May 2010

The Quick Guide for Getting Guys: How Smart Women Can Understand Men

Lately, women have been reporting on the proliferation of a peculiar creature in their neighborhoods. They say it’s hairy, communicates in grunts if at all, is always trying to gain their favor, doesn’t train very well, and tries to hump everything in sight. Yup – men are everywhere. But we’re […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 22 April 2010

On Bad Boys and How to Spot Them

My definition of a bad boy is simple: he is a boy (as opposed to a man) who is bad for you in the long term. By bad I mean that overall, he will bring more pain to your life than joy. Don’t get me wrong: there will be some good times with the bad boy. That’s why women get involved with them. But the net result tends to be more pain than joy.

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 8 February 2011

What’s Your Excuse? Transform Shortcomings into Unfair Advantages in Two Steps

Here’s a letter I got today which really got me thinking: Hello Dr. Alex; I recently purchased your book, “The Tao of Dating for Men”, and read through the entire book in two days (could not put it down).  I am going back now to read it in more depth […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 19 January 2010

Is Los Angeles the Toughest Town for Singles?

Little known fact: I went to high school in Los Angeles, so I’m kind of from Los Angeles.  So when I found myself back in LA after a long hiatus, it was a bit of a homecoming.  I looked forward to perpetually sunny climes, rollerblading on the boardwalk, and the […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 17 February 2012

Dating Advice: Your New Year’s Eve Midnight Makeout Plan

Awright boys and girls. I’m going to make this quick and I’m going to make this sweet. In 24hrs, you will have one of the best opportunities for ‘success’ with with the opposite sex, however you define that for yourself. Or at least of meeting someone new. This is because […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 31 December 2009

Dating Advice for Women: What to Do When the Beauty Fades?

Here’s a great letter that a reader wrote to me recently. It brings up so many great issues — for younger women, older women, pretty women and women who worry whether they’ll stay pretty: Hi Dr. Alex, I’m depressed, bummed (child of 70s) and I need help.  At least I […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 17 February 2012

Dating Advice for Women – Trust Issues: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Hi Dr. Alex!  I’ve been forwarded many of your emails from a friend and I enjoy reading them. Now I have my own questions… Here goes nothing!  So, I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He works in the same building as I do that’s […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 17 February 2012

The Writing of The Tao of Dating for Women: Video Blog #9

Whenever someone writes a book, people ask, “How did you come up with the idea? How long did it take you? Do you really use a manual 1973 Smith-Corona typewriter to do your manuscript? And type it with your feet?” But when a guy writes a dating book for women, […]

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Written by Ali Binazir MD MPhil on 17 February 2012