The Tao of Dating by Dr. Ali Binazir

How do you make good decisions in ambiguous situations? The four Axelrod Criteria will hold you in good stead in many difficult decisions.

May 3rd, 2010 | Tags: Axelrod Criteria, dating, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, making better decisions, Robert Axelrod, Tao of Dating, The Evolution of Cooperation | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Leave a comment

Lately, women have been reporting on the proliferation of a peculiar creature in their neighborhoods. They say it’s hairy, communicates in grunts if at all, is always trying to gain their favor, doesn’t train very well, and tries to hump everything in sight.
Yup – men are everywhere. But we’re not nearly as baffling [...]

April 22nd, 2010 | Tags: corpus callosum, Dating Advice, dating advice for smart women, dating advice for women, dating bible for women, Dating Men, Evan Marc Katz, flirting with men, gender differences, how to get guys, how to understand men, men's idiosyncrasies, mono-tasking, multi-tasking, primer on men, relating to men, Relationship Advice, relationship tips, Relationships, Tao of Dating, tao of dating for women, understanding men | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (3)

Awright boys and girls. I’m going to make this quick and I’m going to make this sweet.
In 24hrs, you will have one of the best opportunities for ‘success’ with with the opposite sex, however you define that for yourself. Or at least of meeting someone new.
This is because Thursday, 31 December 2009 is New Year’s [...]

December 30th, 2009 | Tags: Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, how to kiss a boy, how to kiss a girl, making out, Metamorphosis Program for men, midnight kiss, planning new year's eve, Tao of Dating, Tao of Persuasion | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Leave a comment

Hi Dr. Alex!  I’ve been forwarded many of your emails from a friend and I enjoy reading them. Now I have my own questions…

Here goes nothing!  So, I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He works in the same building as I do that’s how we met. He’s 15 years [...]

October 30th, 2009 | Tags: alex benzer, Dating Advice, dating advice for women, dating tips for women, Excuse, Facebook, Fulfillment, Relationship, Tao of Dating, Trust Issues, Women Trust | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (5)

I get many letters like this from readers (both male and female):
“I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn’t try to kiss me, then he called/didn’t call back, then he asked/didn’t ask me out again, and what does it all mean is he interested what [...]

July 13th, 2009 | Tags: abundance, Anatta, attraction, Be-Do-Have Paradigm, Dating Advice, dating tips, enlightened self-interest, femininity, masculinity, no-self, poverty-consciousness, wealth-consciousness, yin-yang polarity | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Comments (1)

While we’re on the topic of masculinity, here’s a video from my ‘Transformation Weekend’ seminar I did some time back.  Thanks for all of your positive feedback on it so far — we’re working on making an audio product of the seminar ready.  In the meantime, enjoy the video, and feel free to rate it [...]

June 15th, 2009 | Tags: archetypes, Dating Advice, Dating for Men, initiation, king, lover, magician, male archetypes, manhood, masculine power, masculinity, maturity, nice guy, warrior | Category: Dating for Men, Video | Leave a comment

Finally, I’m joining the 21st century and using this whole newfangled video thing.  Thrilling!
This is a topic that is best illustrated visually, since that’s how those pernicious little beasties called fashion magazines inflict their damage. I rant about this in The Tao of Dating for Women fairly extensively — the entire beginning of Chapter [...]

June 11th, 2009 | Tags: Dating Advice, dating tips, fashion magazines are evil, healthy mental diet, inadequacy, self-esteem, tao of dating for women, why women's magazines suck | Category: Dating for Women | Comments (1)

Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles.  As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry.
They kept on going back and forth, with [...]

June 3rd, 2009 | Tags: alex benzer, breakups, cognitive dissonance, Dating Advice, dating tips, foot in the door technique, how to get rid of a bad boyfriend, normalization of deviance, Odysseus protocol, toxic boyfriend | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Comments (2)

Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, which reminded me of the Ten Commandments.
That’s because there’s only one measly commandment telling you what to do: ‘honor thy father and thy mother.’ The remaining nine are a relentless barrage of ‘thou shalt nots’, telling you what not to do.
So if you were to follow them to the [...]

May 19th, 2009 | Tags: advice for singles, alex benzer, dangers of Facebook, Dating Advice, dating dont's, dating mistakes, dating tips, modern dating, ten commandments | Category: Dating for Men, Dating for Men & Women, Dating for Women | Comments (1)